GUEST POST WRITTEN BY DENISE-DUFFIELD THOMAS
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"Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere" -- Glenn Turner
The beauty of being a creative person, is that you have new ideas all day long - the plot for a new book while you're in the shower, the solution to world peace while you're sitting on the loo, or 1001 ways to cook a gourmet meal from the left-over food in your fridge.
The downside of being creative is that you generally open your mind to unnecessary worry because you can imagine more possibilities than anyone else.
An idle creative mind can turn against you in the most sabotaging ways; it can lead to indecisiveness, chronic procrastination or worse - getting stressed and crazy with worry about all the possible outcomes. If you don't have a satisfying creative outlet, your mind can fill with negative and self-defeating thoughts.
ARE YOU TURNING YOUR CREATIVE IMAGINATION AGAINST YOU?
Here is an example:
When I'm in an occasional self destructive mood and I'm procrastinating over a creative projects, I start to worry about my marriage and what our divorce will look like.
I get really angry over the hypothetical fights we'd have over our (largely hypothetical) assets and the custody battles over our (as yet hypothetical) children. Crazy right? We've not even been married two years yet I let myself obsess over the demise of our relationship (and it's GREAT by the way).
Does anyone else have similar thoughts?
It might be about your health, your family or your finances. But the result is the same. Thoughts like this can be very damaging to your natural spark and potential.
The teachings of the Law of Attraction tell us that we will attract what we think about the most. This can be a double edged sword for creative people, so we have to be very careful about our thoughts.
I love coaching people, but this is a very common block
What if I get really successful and then I can't handle it, and then all my friends hate me because I'm so rich and I'll feel really guilty and then I'll get a stalker who'll try and kidnap my children and basically my life will be ruined.
Can you relate?
There is nothing wrong with you. It's a blessing to be that creative! You can definitely use this to your advantage but without the melodrama and anxiety sweats.
When you find yourself going a bit craaazy, turn it in to a great learning experience. Here's a simple creative exercise you can do to trick your mind and take control of your obsessing.
THE CRAZY CAT LADY EXERCISE
Say for example, you worry about becoming a crazy cat lady, all alone in your house because you completely wasted your potential. No money, no friends and your looks are long gone. Got it?
Go in to your vivid imagination and pretend you have time travelled into the future and you're sitting down with that crazy-cat lady version of yourself. Really get in to the details and use all of your senses - what does the cat pee-stained couch smell like? What is she wearing? Feel the texture of the cat's fur who comes to sit on your lap.
When you're totally in the dream, take her gnarled old-lady hands and ask her:
+ How could I avoid this happening in my life?
+ What mistakes did you make?
+ What can I learn from this?
+ What would you do differently?
+ At what point did things go wrong for you?
+ What is the one regret of your life?
+ What advice do you have for me?
Can you see how this would calm that mind of yours and make it a totally fun exercise?
It means that you can learn the lesson without actually attracting those circumstances in to your life. You do not need to be poor in this life-time. You do not need to have bad things happen to you.
10 TIPS TO STOP OBSESSIVE WORRYING
1. GO FOR A WALK OR DO SOME EXERCISE: The positive endorphins generated during exercise make it virtually impossible to be angry, so use that time to come up with some ideas that make you happy.
2. SNAP OUT OF IT: Wear a rubber band around your wrist and if you feel yourself sliding into negative thoughts, snap yourself with the rubber band - it is a great habit breaker.
3. EXPLORE THE FEELINGS FURTHER: Be honest with what's bothering you. Are you worried about your marriage? Do you need a different job? Is it time to sort out your finances?
4. ASK YOURSELF - WHAT AM I PROCRASTINATING?: Are you letting yourself worry over something trivial because you're avoiding living your life? What are you trying to avoid?
5. DE-CLUTTER YOUR LIFE: Obsessive worrying is mental clutter, but there's a clear link to physical clutter too. So go through your wardrobe, clean your desk and do that filing. You will feel so much better.
6. DO A DREAM BOARD: A daily reminder of your goals and dreams can help you focus on what you really want and avoid attracting more of what you don't. Learn how to make one here.
7. TAKE ACTION TODAY TOWARDS YOUR DREAM: Write one blog post, take one photo or write one proposal. You can make a great living through your passions, but you have to make a step towards it. The Universe always rewards action.
8. MEDITATION: Spending even just a few minutes a day in stillness will quieten your chattering monkey mind and give you some space to really create what you want.
9. GRATITUDE: Your life is already so blessed, so by focusing on what you already have, you will b less inclined to obsess about what you don't. Remember - thoughts are things!
10. BOOK A SESSION WITH A LIFE COACH: Sometimes you can't do it alone. I've got the perfect 1:1 coaching programme for creative people who are stuck and want to move in to a new level in their life. Find out more.
NOW, TURN THAT IMAGINATION IN TO GOLD
You're obviously creative, and have got a fantastic imagination. So, why not use that creative energy for good?
Grab your journal and write a list of at least ten different creative projects that you can start. Such as;
+ Writing a book (a really trashy romantic one if you think your relationship is constantly going sour)
+ Starting a blog
+ Taking up a new creative hobby like painting or a knitting group
+ Joining a book club
+ Finding a volunteer gardening circle
+ Offering to host an exhibition at a local disused space
+ Starting a new creative business, selling something on Etsy or Smashwords
The busier you are using your creative talents, the less time you'll spend obsessing over pointless scenarios.
Love your life and give yourself permission to be creative. Imagine what you can do with all that imagination and energy?!
Tell me in the comments - what's the things you obsess about the most? What are you going to do about it TODAY?
Denise is a life coach, and author of Lucky Bitch: a guide for exceptional women to create outrageous success.