13 November 2010


"A change of feeling is a change of destiny" Neville Goodard

I do whatever I can to ensure I feel good most of the time because I believe that how you feel is everything. If you are a follower of the Law of Attraction as I am, you will know that whatever you feel, you attract. You get back what you give out. You attract in to your life whatever you think about and focus on. The emotions you feel an indicator of whether you are attracting good or bad things in to your life. When you feel good, you get more that makes you feel good, and when you feel bad, you get more that makes you feel bad.

I remember reaching a point in my life where I decided my happiness was more important than anything else. It was my number one goal. I decided that above all else I wanted to feel good all the time. I soon realised that in order to achieve this continual feeling of happiness, I was going to have to give up my addiction to negative thinking.

I used to have quite the negativity addiction, and in order to get over that I had to let go of a lot of habits that were not serving me. There was a long list of things I had to kick to the curb including; complaining about things I did not like, placing blame on others when something went wrong, bitching about things that I did not like about others, abusing other drivers on the road, needing to be right and make someone else wrong, nitpicking at my body and finding all my faults, blah blah the list goes on...

All of these negative behaviours totally blocked me from happiness. While I still succumb to them sometimes, I can honestly say I have radically reduced the amount of time I spend indulging in these activities And, even when I realise I am doing it, I am self aware enough to catch myself and reverse it.

However, for some reason today was a slight exception. I had a bad night sleep and woke up feeling really off. It was rainy outside, I was tired and moody and I could just not seem to shake this heavy negative feeling lingering inside of me. My mind felt foggy and I could not reach any clarity or lightness in my thinking. Seeing I know the power of feeling good, I knew how important it was to shift this feeling. And I also know that, the number one way to shift your feeling is to shift your thinking.

It took me the entire day, but I have finally been able to shift this heavy emotion and I can honestly say I am now feeling really good again. But the experience I had today inspired me to write a blog post about it. While this off day was a rare occurrence for me, I think it is the way that a lot of people live everyday of their life. So often things happen and we just react to them, without realising that we have a choice about how we feel and respond. I want to share some of the tools I used today to shift my feeling in the hope that others will too apply these techniques to help increase the level of happiness in their life.

1. Get out of your head and in to your body
After about an hour of feeling funky this morning, I realised that not much was going to work, so I decided to hit the gym. So often when we are feeling yuck it is because we are thinking yucky thoughts. It is easy to get stuck in our heads worrying, complaining, over analysing. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just switch off your mind completely and get moving.

So, this morning I went an did an amazing one hour body combat class and WOW it totally blasted my negativity out the window. I came out of that class feeling powerful, strong, determined, clear headed and incredibly light. When you exercise, not only do switch off your negative thinking, but you change the whole energy of your body to a much higher vibration! You don't necessarily need to hit the gym to use this tool. It can also be as simple as going for a walk in the park, doing some stretching at home, or even putting some music on and having a dance.

2. Baby step your way out of it
A great tool to use is what I call 'baby step thinking'. I have also heard this tool called many different things including bridging and climbing. Basically what it involves is changing the way that you are thinking by taking small baby steps out of negative thinking and in to positive thinking. When we are feeling really crap and our mind is stuck in the gutter, it is virtually impossible to jump straight up to a really happy positive thought. So, instead baby step your way there. Start this process by reaching for any thought that feels even a tiny bit better than the thought you are thinking. Pay attention to how you feel as you are doing this, as you will know you are thinking better thoughts when you find that you are starting to feel a little better

For example: Let's say you are trying to get a new job, and you are stuck in some funky negative thinking and you are feeling tense, anxious and scared. Your thoughts may be something like "I really want this job, but I don't think I will get it. I am not good enough for it. I don't have the skills, or the experience and I do not think I am smart enough. I am sure there are heaps of other people who will apply who are way better than me"

Rather than wallowing in this place, you can start to baby step your way out of this thinking place in to a better feeling place. For example: "I am not sure that I can get this job, but perhaps I should just apply anyway and see how I go. I may not have all the skills needed for this job, but I do actually meet a couple of the selection criteria. I have actually applied for jobs in the past where I didn't think I had all the skills but then I got an interview and I got the job. Plus, I am a pretty quick learner and I am sure I could pick it up quickly. The idea of doing this job really makes my heart sing I know that I would bring so much to the role. I would really love to do it, and I know that my passion for this job will really shine through. I am definitely going to apply because I actually think I could do a really good job and I have a lot of what they are looking for"

I do this type of stuff all the time. It is almost like talking yourself out of the negative thinking and baby stepping your way in to positive thinking. Not only will you start to feel better, but the positive thinking you are putting out will dramatically improve your chances of having a positive outcome.

3. Focus on what you love, appreciate and are grateful for
I did this exercise today, and it really boosted me from feeling kinda ok, to feeling great! All I did was sit in my room and look around, and find things that I saw that I loved. I started with simple things like; I really love my bed, it is so comfortable. I really love my laptop computer, I love that I have so many nice clothes in my wardrobe... Then I started to think about other things in my life that I love like; I really love where I work, it is such a nice office with great people. I really love living in this house because it is so affordable and I am saving so much money....

Then I started to move on to things that I really appreciated and was grateful for in my life. "I am so grateful to have such a supportive and loving family. I am so blessed to live in such a beautiful city. I love and appreciate the amazing friends that I have as they as so supportive and beautiful. I am so thankful that I have a healthy strong body to move around in"

I did this for about ten minutse, and by the end of it I could not stop smiling! It is a beautiful tool to really shift yourself to a higher level of thinking and feeling.

So, next time you are feeling low, stop yourself from wallowing in it or reaching for that tub of ice cream, and instead turn it around. Don't forget that if you continue sitting in that negative feeling, you are just going to attract more negative experiences and events in to your life. So change it NOW! There is nothing more important than feeling good. And remember "it is not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters" (Epictetus)


  1. This is very detailed and helpful advice. Love your blog, and the bubbly positivity! :)

  2. Connie! Law attraction always gets me to your sight when I am desperately seeking answers... I love this post. This will book marked and read many more times.. and emailed to dear ones :)

    Thank U!!

  3. Love this advice. I would also add that I was in a funk for a long time. I am working on a 101 in 1001 list. One of my items was to make a list of 101 things that make me happy. Putting into words and the act of physically making the list of little things that made me happy helped me realize that I am often happier than I think I am. That even in dark moments, there is a sliver of light to guide me out.



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